For many decades, psychologists and researches have been fixated on the mother-child bond, deeming it the most significant influence on a child’s life. Much focus was on this particular relationship and the outcome of the child.
In the recent decade, there has been greater recognition of just how much dads influence a child’s wellbeing and outcome. A large-scale analysis of research has been gathered to understand the power of parental rejection and the acceptance in shaping personalities as children and into our adult lives.
Researcher Professor Ronald Rohner, director of the Center for the Study of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection at the University of Connecticut and co-author of the new study in Personality and Social Psychology Review, said that fatherly love is crucial to a child’s development and hopes that his findings will motivate more men to become more involved their children’s lives.
In the US, Great Britain and Europe, we have assumed for the past 300 years that all children need for normal healthy development is a loving relationship with their mother. And that dads are there as support for the mother and to support the family financially but are not required for the healthy development of the children. But that belief is fundamentally wrong. We have to start getting away from that idea and realize the dad’s influence is as great, and sometimes greater, than the mother’s. ~Ronald Rohner
In general, parental rejection has been linked to low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacies and exhibiting negative worldviews. Rohner suggests that dad’s rejection has a greater influence and is linked to a child’s level of delinquency, depression, behavioral issues, substance abuse and psychological adjustment.
Knowing that kids feel loved by their father is a better predictor of young adults’ sense of well-being, of happiness, of life satisfaction than knowing about the extent to which they feel loved by their mothers. ~Ronald Rohner