What inspired you to create this online resource and write this series?
My initial research on child custody was out of necessity for my own situation, but given the amount of resources and knowledge that I amassed, I quickly realized I could help other parents avoid some unnecessary expenses and not become overwhelmed in the preparation process. My professional work was already in the field of consulting and helping authors self-publish, so applying that to my own experience only made sense.
During my research on fathers in child custody disputes, I was astounded by the effects a father-absent home can have on a child and the rate at which they exist in our society. Making matters worse, I was shocked to discover custody guides that actually encouraged immoral strategies to undermine fathers. Instead of focusing on deceptive strategies, Evidence Strategies for Child Custody helps dedicated fathers counter malicious tactics and assists them in presenting a case that demonstrates their active involvement and commitment as a parent.
Before I filed for custody, I reached out to the greater community and learned that many parents shared similar experiences of disputes after a separation or divorce. While seeking the advice of other parents, I was told that the Family Court judges in Buncombe County valued a father’s involvement and supported equal parenting. I was curious to see how cases were handled first hand and sat through numerous custody hearings before my own trial.
When witnessing families cycle through the Buncombe County Family Courtroom, I did not witness a bias towards either parent, but rather the judges commended parents who put their personal issues aside so that the best interests of their child came first. In contrast, I saw how parents who slandered or made unnecessarily inflammatory remarks about the other parent put their intentions in question. Unless there was clear evidence that demonstrated a child was in danger, the judges gave the parents every opportunity to work out a parenting plan before heading to trial. I believe the Buncombe County Family Court is a good model for how Family Courts can value shared parenting, the importance of fathers, and recognize the tremendous benefits this has on our children and communities.
To further prepare, I read countless case studies on child custody. I discovered that lies and false accusations are rampant in Family Court, often clouding the most important issues in a case and delaying a judge’s ability to determine the best interests of the child. I learned quite a lot about different types of evidence, what’s credible, and how to organize it properly for trial. At the conclusion of our hearing, my attorney turned to me with a smile and said, “I’m going to offer you a job”.